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I DID IT!!!! :) Tonight, I achieved my red belt in Tae Kwon Do. I broke three one-inch boards (and got in trouble for it. Ooops), sparred three black belts separately and then fought all three of them as a group. I flubbed my fifth form by forgetting the second half, but otherwise did pretty good.

I look like I've been run over by a car, and feel pretty close to it as well. I have a cut on one arm (which is why I got into trouble for breaking boards with my medical condition), bruising on my shoulder, on both forearms, along one leg and foot, and my other leg is almost completely bruised from knee to toes. Ouch. It's over and I'm resting now. I could take a BATH in Arnica *laugh*

BTW, that would be MRS. HOWARD to you now *snicker* It's so funny to tell my kids they now have to call me Mrs. Howard in class. Even funnier to think that I have to log 20-50 hours of teaching before my next belt test. I'm assistant instructor level now. I'm now working on my brown belt, and then after that I would become a black belt candidate. I still can't believe it.

Now, for a few 'bullet point' updates.

- Matthew gets his tonsils out on Tuesday

- Matthew also had a very difficult (UNDERSTATEMENT) week. On Tuesday, he wanted to finish an art project but it was time to move to the next class. He flipped out. TOTALLY flipped out. Nonverbal, screaming, growling, fighting contact and trying to run away. It took three teachers to carry him out to the car and I spent a good 30-45 minutes trying to get him into a seat. We finally had to have his teacher hold down Matthew and ride home with us while another teacher followed. Otherwise, I couldn't have made it home. If I let go of him, he tried to open the doors and get out of the car. I spent a good hour or so after getting home just holding him down. I talked to his psychiatrist and we decided the only option at that point was to take him to Children's hospital and get him sedated with a shot. I REALLY didn't want to do that. I actually threatened Matthew to get him to sit in the seat without unbuckling himself (losing all games, no tv, a spanking, etc.) and talked to him ONE LAST TIME while in the parking lot at Children's. The reality of getting a shot at the hospital to calm him down hit home and he withdrew into himself. He spent the rest of the day and all day yesterday focused inward. Today he seems ok, but I haven't seen a break like this in YEARS and back then I was able to just pick him up and make him do what he needed to. Now, he's bigger and stronger, and it exhausted me to hold him still for hours hoping he would wear himself out. Ok, this bullet point turned out to be its own story :)

- We have a new rescue coming in on Saturday. We got to name him and he'll be known as 'Ajax' in the Cairn Rescue family. He's not a puppy mill dog, but rather a surrender by owner who didn't have the time available to take care of him. I just need to make sure he is social, housebroken, and ready to be adopted. Since he is only a year old, I think he'll get adopted quickly.

- Mom finally got her VA backpay. YAY! That's one less thing I need to worry about and we can keep her in assisted living.

Now I just need to rest for a while and take some tylenol.


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Nov. 21st, 2008 06:14 am (UTC)
Jeezo-pete with Matthew! It sounds so similar to what I went through with Jess. Can I ask what the problem is with him? I know you're dealing with something and it's big and you're doing a helluva good job. I've just never known the exactness of it all.
Nov. 21st, 2008 06:17 am (UTC)
ADHD and he's on the autism spectrum. Depending on what doctor you talk to it's either PDD:NOS or Aspergers. He's smart as a whip, just in his own world and sometimes not able to properly deal with his frustration.
Nov. 21st, 2008 06:33 am (UTC)
Yeah - crap. That's way too familiar. Sounds like you've got some real support, though, with the teachers and all. With stress like that, it's good thing you've got the TKD as an outlet.
Nov. 21st, 2008 04:15 pm (UTC)
His issues sound so much like my oldest son's that it's eerie. He was eventually diagnosed with Aspergers and ADHD (those are the final ones we've all agreed on, he's had a few different ones over the years).

Always here if you want to talk. And I'm certainly willing to share the various programs that have worked for him. He's now 15, and functioning completely 'normal' whatever that is.

his meltdown? I've seen before. many, many times. *exactly* what my son used to do.
Nov. 21st, 2008 06:46 pm (UTC)
What did you do during the fits? I don't want him to hurt himself, or to run away. I feel horrible just sitting there hugging him tight for as long as I can physically hold out.
Nov. 21st, 2008 08:50 pm (UTC)
I found that holding him didn't really help either of us much, over time. It was hard to learn *not* to hold him.

It's hard to explain to someone whose kid doesn't have fits like these what they are, what to do. I hate that you have to go through it, too. It sucks.

The best advice I got, a long time ago, was to treat the fits like you would an epileptic seizure (for which information is abundant in comparison). Keep things out of his way, keep him safe, and wait it out.

For us, we tried a host of different drugs (after every single holistic method we could find and make up), before discovering Risperdol - which I had to go to my doctor and ask for. For a lot of asperger's kids, it's a miracle drug, and certainly mine. I'm not pro-medication -- not at all -- and don't want to push you that direction, however... life gets a lot easier for you, and more importantly? for the *kid* if you can find a medication that helps.
Nov. 21st, 2008 08:56 pm (UTC)
I told my g/f about this - who is a kids' therapist - and she asked me if he'd had a recent strep infection?
Nov. 22nd, 2008 03:20 am (UTC)
He hasn't had one too recently. Last positive strep test was maybe 6-8 months ago. He had a sore throat a few weeks ago, with HUGE tonsils (think almost blocking his throat) but he never had a fever and it didn't look like strep.

What would the strep be related to? The meltdown or the tonsils? :)
Nov. 21st, 2008 06:32 am (UTC)
Congratulations!!!! That is so cool. You've worked so hard for this and it's a real tickle seeing it come to pass.

(had to put my two comments in separate posts)
Nov. 21st, 2008 09:03 pm (UTC)
Congrats on earning your red belt!

So sorry about Matthew's (and your) bad week! :(
Nov. 22nd, 2008 03:24 am (UTC)
I LOVE your icon! :) *swipe*
Nov. 21st, 2008 11:51 pm (UTC)
Yay you red belt you!

You so impress me. Maybe I can get all involved once I'm done with the baby-making and the kids are a bit older.
Nov. 22nd, 2008 03:27 am (UTC)
It's a LOT of fun. You don't realize you are getting such a good workout. Well, until you can barely move you are so sore the next day *laugh*

How many of those Wilson spawn are you guys going to make? ;) As fast as he seems to be growing, Dunked in Gravy may be able to do TKD with you.
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