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Thoughts on family

I had such a strange childhood, with just me and my mom, and a strained relationship at that. Right now, I'm watching the latest 'Trading Spaces' where a mother-in-law doesn't get along with her son's wife. With all of the jokes you hear about mother-in-laws, I know that I am so blessed to have such wonderful in-laws. My mother-in-law and I get along better than I get along with my own mother, and having grown up with only me and my mom as family, I am blessed with a sister-in-law, brother-in-law and LOTS of other relatives. Even a father-in-law. Having lost my own dad at age 5, having a father figure tears my heart apart. I know Scott and his father have a somewhat strained early relationship, but things have changed and just to HAVE all of this family is such a blessing.

Damn, I must be drunk for a TV show to move me so much when it's about a strained family relationship, and I am so blessed to have married into such a great group of people.

On a related note, my friends are my family, and I haven't heard from a few of them in a while, so I'll have to take some time out tomorrow to see what is going on in their lives.

I also can't wait to work out a new visit time with my GS and *sniff sniff* my GodSon.

Want to know what is weird? You hear the phrase 'Always a Bridesmaid, never a bride'? I had it backwards - I've been a bride, but never a bridesmaid. The one time that I would have been in a wedding, it was for my good MALE friend and his wife-to-be wouldn't hear of a female groomsman. I've never BEEN a bridesmaid.

Maybe it's my lack of family growing up and the distance between me and my good friends, but the fact that I have been thought of as an influence for a child other than my own, for the rest of his life, makes me want to cry.

Ok, time to stop drinking and clear my head.

Or to continue drinking but stop making sappy posts *laugh*

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tigerheartdrebl
Mar. 2nd, 2008 06:23 am (UTC)
Hehehe.

"My mother-in-law and I get along better than I get along with my own mother."

I'm glad you have awesome in-laws. See, Melissa & I were talking about this recently. We said we didn't think we were very close w/our MIL's or minded so much that they were so strange & rude b/c we WERE so close w/ our OWN mothers.

Before we were married, I thought my in-laws were fabulous. But they've REALLY shown their asses since we've been married. Granted, they are still Chris's family & I'm still very respectful & nice to them. But we are NOT close.
allykatt
Mar. 2nd, 2008 02:29 pm (UTC)
i don't speak to my own mother, at all. i haven't in years. my choice, entirely.
my mother-in-law, however, is someone i talk to often. she calls me about as often as she calls the hubby, and we just chat about whatever - and she sends the boys birthday and christmas gifts, which is nice of her. she's even come all the way out from arizona and met both of the boys.

i used to make the same joke, only mine was "never a bridesmaid, never a bride!" i finally got to be a bridesmaid at age 31, and then a bride at 35.
1smart1
Mar. 2nd, 2008 04:09 pm (UTC)
We love you!!!
oddharmonic
Mar. 2nd, 2008 08:49 pm (UTC)
My ex-mother-in-law once commented that she hears from me more often than from her son (my ex). She's Laurel's grandmother so I can hardly imagine /not/ keeping her in the loop.

I've never been a bridesmaid either, not even in my sister's wedding. I've never done the whole wedding party thing, either; the first time I got married in the DMV (self-solemnized - Colorado allows it) and the second time we were married by a Justice of the Peace. Really nice guy, he was up for re-election last year.
standbackstevie
Mar. 3rd, 2008 03:33 pm (UTC)
I'm glad you have such an awesome relationship with your in-laws! My FIL is a great father-figure to me as well, and I hate that my relationship with my MIL is so strained. I WISH my hubbie hadn't been an only child---a bigger family for both of us would've been better...and quite possibly could've removed some of the *pressure* of the overbearing MIL! ;)
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