Look! An insane hoop to jump through! *sigh*
Another stumble today that just makes you want to wonder how people can handle this on their own. Four years ago, I signed mom up for the waiting list on a program that the Texas Department of Aging and Disability has which would pay for a portion of her assisted living costs. At that time, the waiting list was running about 3 years. When I called to check on it a few months ago, they said they couldn't find anything, so I submitted another application online. It must have gotten into SOMEBODY'S hands who knew what to do, because she called me and said she found my mom's case file and it had been closed in June of 2006 for 'inability to locate client'. Hmmm, let's see. She moved into her senior community in February of 06. I could see where the mail might no longer be forwarding 4 months later. However, they had the CORRECT phone number for her, CORRECT phone number and mailing address for me as secondary contact. Did they call either number, or try mailing me here? NO! They just closed the damn file after a multi-year waiting list!!!!
The person who called gave me the name of a supervisor who will get a really nice call from me tomorrow. They better FIND a way to fast track my mom into this program, because there is no way I'm accepting going to the back of the line or them 'not accepting any new applications'.
I could just SCREAM!
Lord, please don't let me be a burden to my kids when I'm old. Make me active, independent and healthy until I die a quick death doing something I love in my 80s, or make sure I'm independently wealthy to a point that I can take care of all of my own care. Meanwhile, give me the patience to take care of my mother with a smile, because goodness only knows, she'll probably last many, MANY more years like this.
Sometimes, I feel like I have four kids - Michael and Matthew, the unemployed husband with the broken toe and the senile, broke and completely unable to make a decision for herself mother.