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Another day of fun

Matthew wouldn't talk to me or look at me from the time he got up this morning. He had been having such a great week - smiley faces all week, doing great with homework and studying for his spelling test. Suddenly, he goes inward again.

At some point this morning, he snapped his Tooth Tunes toothbrush (All Star, Smashmouth) in half, then snapped his brother's in half. It seemed a minor thing and I thought it was a symptom more than a cause of anything.

I took them to school, and he wasn't even there 30 minutes before the vice-principal called us. Matthew had gone in and tried to get breakfast, and the cafeteria worker questioned him because they still had a flag on his account from last year. At one point, we had a problem with him having breakfast at home, then going in and buying breakfast at school. Since he wasn't hungry, he would often be late to class dawdling. The lady asked if he was sure he was supposed to have breakfast at school. He left the lunchroom. Someone saw him running out the doors to where the car dropoff line is and they ran after him. They finally caught him out by the dumpsters. Since that was a risk of harming himself, they called us in.

By the time we got to school, Mr. Watson had him calmed down and back in class. We talked for a while and went home. Then, at recess, he ran off when they were heading out there. Scott went to get him and spent a long time out in the car talking to him. He heard three names of kids that Matthew says call him names and talk about him. Scott thinks he may bring it on himself by being 'different'. He is quiet, plays by himself and doesn't try to socialize. But then Matthew told him that one particular child has hauled off and hit him in the stomach a couple of times. Unacceptable. We talked to his teacher for a while today and she's going to help us keep an eye out for things. We don't want him to become scared of school and run away because he is being bullied.

I bought new toothbrushes for the kids - new songs on Tooth Tunes.

Michael came down a little while ago and said Matthew was saying he hated me. I tried to get Matthew to talk to me, but he wouldn't look at me. He was mumbling and making Xs on his chalkboard over and over. I gave up, told him I loved him very much and gave him a kiss before coming back downstairs (a lengthy process with my hurt foot).

Matthew came down a while later into the laundry room and told me that he really loved his old toothbrush. I asked why he didn't have his old toothbrush anymore and he said it broke. I asked how it got broken and he said he got snapped in half. I asked who snapped it in half and he said he did. I tried to explain that he was responsible for the fact that his old toothbrush was gone, but that I got him a new one with a new song that he could learn to love. I thought everything was ok and told him, again, how much I loved him and that things run much smoother when he uses his words to tell us what he is upset about.

Later, Michael came down yelling that Matthew broke his new toothbrush. That broke the camel's back tonight. He snapped his new ten FUCKING dollar toothbrush in half like it was going to bring back the last ten fucking dollar toothbrush that he ALSO broke.

I PRAY tomorrow is better and that he doesn't act like this while Scott has them by himself next week.


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Nov. 3rd, 2007 04:41 am (UTC)
The last couple of entries about Matthew's behavior are perplexing. I think you said he is on medication for ADD? Do you think he could be having an adverse reaction to that?
Nov. 3rd, 2007 05:32 am (UTC)
He is on Concerta and Strattera. They've been working well for about 7 months now. He had adverse reactions to Adderall so we took him off that fairly quickly. There was another we tried in between those that I can't remember right off. He did concerta by itself for a few months, and we added Straterra in because the effects were wearing off at unpredictable rates. His doctor thought that perhaps pairing a non-stimulant with the stimulant would complement each other. They have given him a LOT more focus.

It was easy to tell there was a reaction to the Adderall because his behavior changed in a consistent manner. With this, it hasn't been consistent like a cycle that maps with his medication. I'm not ruling it out, but it isn't standing out to me as the likeliest.
Nov. 3rd, 2007 02:02 pm (UTC)
Man, oh man. I wish I had words to help. Instead all I have is a very heart-felt:

Nov. 3rd, 2007 05:14 pm (UTC)
Man, I totally think the kids at school are the cause of his moodiness. I'd hate to think he's depressed but it sure as hell sounds like it.

The toothbrush thing has me completely perplexed though. I don't get that.

This has to be so hard - I am so sorry you and Matthew (and the family for that matter) are going through this. HUGS.
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