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Why joy is still in my heart

Thinking so much about being left all alone upon the sudden loss of your spouse made me think about how much I really do love my husband. I know I tell him daily, but I don't know that he understands the depth of it or the reasons for it. Sometimes it becomes a HABIT - something you say at the end of a phone call or before leaving on a trip. However, here are just ten of the many, MANY reasons, I truly do still love this man I've been married to for almost 12 years and been with for about 17.

1) He makes me laugh almost every day.
2) He's truly brilliant and can figure out almost anything.
3) When mad, he will always walk away rather than raise his voice to me.
4) He stands with me as a true Partner when it comes to raising the kids.
5) His big, beautiful brown eyes and those long, dark eyelashes he was
nice enough to bless our sons with.
6) The twinkle in his eye when he's been drinking, and it looks like he
is just RIGHT on the verge of sharing the world's funniest (or
raunchiest) joke with you.
7) Despite complaining about his family, I see that he will do anything
to help them. Anything.
8) The little acts of kindness or romance he can pull out of nowhere
9) Finding a love letter from when we first started dating and still
having my heart melt over it.
10)Saying that he loves me no matter what happens on the outside - long
hair or short, thin or bigger, pale or tan, dressed up or in jammies.

Sometimes we get so caught up in the day-to-day of our lives. Many people
thought that 7/7/07 was going to be some big lucky day - but for some it
was the worst day of their lives. Today, I wanted to make it known that
it was just like any day in my life - perfect because I have my boys and
Scott with me.

I think everyone should put together lists like this for those they
love in their life, and don't just keep them private. SHOW THEM!!!
Take it the other way, as well. Been fighting? At the end of your rope?
Start writing what you love about the person and what annoys you. Once
you see the love side grow and grow, and how petter the annoyances can
seem in comparison, it tends to make whatever slight you are feeling
fade away with time.

Scott, I love you and hope to have you with me for the rest of our
lives. I want to grow old with you, watch our sons grow up, watch
them start careers and families, then spend our older years enjoying
the company of each other again. Although that is my greatest wish,
were I to lose you tomorrow, I know that I would eventually realize
that you blessed me with almost 20 of the best years of my life and
left me with two WONDERFUL children that are always a part of you.

I love you, hon. Just because.

Always and Forever,

'Trish-E-Poo' *laugh*


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Jul. 8th, 2007 04:56 am (UTC)
It makes me happy to know you guys are together. I get to see so few long-term relationships, and I keep getting afraid that I'm deluded in thinking that Wendy and I will last forever.
Jul. 8th, 2007 05:06 am (UTC)
You just have to celebrate your differences, know that you won't always agree, let the person who is better at something handle it (bills, dealing with paperwork, tasks around the house), and keep a good humor about it no matter what.

People just don't believe it - Scott and I have never had a fight. We worked out very early in the relationship how to handle things that make us mad, and tactics like leaving if it gets heated, dropping the subject until the next day, cooling off periods, and putting things in writing are what have kept us out of fights.

Then there is the best and most important part!!! While it is wonderful to take vacations together, go visit family and all of that....seperate vacations are a requirement each year. If only for a girls weekend to Vegas or the boys going out fishing for a week. Keeps you sane and strong ;)

You and Wendy have staying power, from what I've seen. You never know what will last forever, but putting your all into what you have now makes it much more likely. It builds over time :)
Jul. 8th, 2007 02:32 pm (UTC)
Thank you for a little marriage advice! I need to learn all I can.
Jul. 9th, 2007 12:54 am (UTC)
Jul. 8th, 2007 05:34 am (UTC)
Funny you should post this today. Ben and I have been in a really good place for a really long time now. It is such a wonderful time. I am never sure Ben really knows how much I love him and appreciate him - but the other day he said something really funny.

We were at my client's house (she sells life insurance). She was talking about different policy options that are available to us. Ben said to her, "Just promise me one thing, when you sit down to discuss this with Shannon - make sure you have a box of Kleenex handy. There is no way she'll make it through a conversation about preparing for losing me without crying her eyes out."

I'm thinking he gets it :)
Jul. 9th, 2007 02:59 am (UTC)
Wonderful Sentiment
I'm so glad that you've posted such a wonderful entry, so full of love and all the things that a marriage can and should be. The sharing of each others thoughts after a long time together, the knowing smile, the soft caress and tender kiss. All of these and so much more are the things that can perhaps be referred to as habit, but in my opinion, and please note that the love of my life (LOML) and I will be celebrating our 30th anniversary in early August, these things are essentials to ensuring that both of you know where you're heading as a couple. Just think about what either one of you would feel if something terrible were to happen and the last word spoken to each other didn't end with "I love you, or I'm really looking forward to being with you." No response is needed, I already know the answer. LOML is a cancer survivor, believe me, I know the answer. I make sure that not a day goes, by, in fact several times a day, that I let her know exactly what she means to me and more importantly to "Us" for without the most special person in the world, I'd be lost and without focus.

Sorry for the rambling note, but sometimes it takes the long way around to get to the point of saying, you've posted a wonderful sentiment, thank you. :o)
Jul. 26th, 2007 04:58 pm (UTC)
d0h! I have not kept up with my own wife's journal over the past month or so. Shame on me. :)

I love you too hon, even if I'm not so good at saying so at the right times.

Belated reply.

PS I'm not going anywhere. I refuse to chase speeders on motorbikes.
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