One of the other members of my Mothers of Multiples group was also in the hospital getting breast reconstruction after mastectomy at the same time I was. We talked a visited a lot because we were only two doors away from each other. We have taken to calling each other every few days to see how the other is doing, complain about things and just generally chat. When I was on the phone with her a couple of days ago, I mentioned Scott going out of town on Monday and being gone 2 weeks. She said she was lucky that she had her husband there to help her (her twin boys are 4 years old). I said I would call her in a few days to talk again.
Last night, I got an email which went out to ALL of our Mothers of Multiples club. Evidently, she had been talking with our current president and mentioned that she didn't know HOW I was going to manage alone with the boys just 3 weeks out of major surgeries. So, the president sends an email out to the WHOLE CLUB telling them I am going to be alone with the kids, still not up to par, blah, blah, blah and for them to rally around me to do things like meals, running the kids places, laundry, cleaning, whatever.
How freaking embarrassing! I feel like some sort of charity case. I never would have asked for this. I don't like to be in a position where I need help from another person. If nobody came to help me out, I would find a way to manage. I will ask my husband or kids to do stuff for me. Even occassionally my mom. My friends grudgingly. People I barely know? Never. I do really appreciate what they are trying to do, but it really makes me feel like I am helpless.