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When to tell work

I talked things over with my 'big sis', Jax, about when it was appropriate to tell my boss about the medical issues I am about to go through. My concern was that I would be so distracted and have so many doctor's appointments that I wondered if I should go ahead and mention it. We decided that it was probably best to wait until I had met with all of the doctors, finalized the plans, and had a date for the surgery. I can then go to my boss and explain things fully, and even let him know two vital things:

- Working from home on a wireless laptop means that very little work will be missed. I was working the day after my knee surgery, and I only miss a few hours when I get the neurotomies on my back. I'll be hospitalized for 3-5 days, but once I come home, I should be back on within a few days, so we are talking maybe only one week missed, even though it will be a month before I am back up to normal activities.

- I'm planning on possibly doing the surgery in January if all works out. This may make him feel better since my two major projects launch on October 2 and then January 2. Once they launch, I should have some 'down time' before new projects are started.

I think this is the plan now. I assume I meet with the other two docs in the next few weeks, as Dr. Euhus went ahead and scheduled my husband and I for a 'pre-op' meeting on October 2. That's when we'll decide on dates.


BTW - Instead of a filter (since most people wanted on it anyway), or a cut, I'm just going to mark all of my posts on this subject with one of my two breast cancer icons. That makes them easily identifiable.



( 5 thoughts — Whatcha' think? )
Sep. 2nd, 2006 03:21 pm (UTC)
There is so much I'd want to say, but don't really have the words. Any way I try to say them, they sound stupid.

I guess all I really need to say is that you are in my thoughts.
Sep. 2nd, 2006 03:35 pm (UTC)
I'm sure they aren't stupid. I would love to hear your thoughts. If you don't want to do it in a public forum, you can always email me trish at vew dot net
Sep. 2nd, 2006 04:03 pm (UTC)
*laugh* Thank you for the four-leaf clover. I'll need it! *hug*
Sep. 2nd, 2006 10:43 pm (UTC)
Here comes that damned lawyer again!
I vote for discussing it with your employer now. If they know what's going on they'll be a lot more understanding of your situation - particularly if you're distracted from work or if you have to miss work due to lots of appointments. I firmly believe it's better to tell them up front than to leave them guessing and let the rumor mill start.

Also, in order to protect yourself you might want to send a very friendly thank you memo after your conversation. In that memo outline what you are going through, the expected treatment and your expected recovery time. Express your deepest gratitude for their understanding and their support of you during this difficult time.

That memo saved my butt when the company tried to sweep me off to the side, and I got passed up for the promotion I had been told was coming my way.

If you decide that's what you want to do, I'll be glad to help you craft the letter.
Sep. 3rd, 2006 01:47 am (UTC)
Re: Here comes that damned lawyer again!
Oh, I'm definitely going to follow up via email. I've got to figure out what I am going to say, and how best to position it. I've got to figure out exactly how much to reveal, since it is so personal and 'female'.
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