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And another thing...

On Friday, my mom actually moves into the assisted living place in McKinney. I think it will be a big load off my shoulders when she gets over there. Now if I could just finish getting together all of the VA paperwork to get her reimbursed, we'll be golden. I'm waiting on a CERTIFIED copy of my dad's Navy discharge and a copy of his divorce decree from his first wife from the 60s!!!!

Look! An insane hoop to jump through! *sigh*

Another stumble today that just makes you want to wonder how people can handle this on their own. Four years ago, I signed mom up for the waiting list on a program that the Texas Department of Aging and Disability has which would pay for a portion of her assisted living costs. At that time, the waiting list was running about 3 years. When I called to check on it a few months ago, they said they couldn't find anything, so I submitted another application online. It must have gotten into SOMEBODY'S hands who knew what to do, because she called me and said she found my mom's case file and it had been closed in June of 2006 for 'inability to locate client'. Hmmm, let's see. She moved into her senior community in February of 06. I could see where the mail might no longer be forwarding 4 months later. However, they had the CORRECT phone number for her, CORRECT phone number and mailing address for me as secondary contact. Did they call either number, or try mailing me here? NO! They just closed the damn file after a multi-year waiting list!!!!

The person who called gave me the name of a supervisor who will get a really nice call from me tomorrow. They better FIND a way to fast track my mom into this program, because there is no way I'm accepting going to the back of the line or them 'not accepting any new applications'.

I could just SCREAM!

Lord, please don't let me be a burden to my kids when I'm old. Make me active, independent and healthy until I die a quick death doing something I love in my 80s, or make sure I'm independently wealthy to a point that I can take care of all of my own care. Meanwhile, give me the patience to take care of my mother with a smile, because goodness only knows, she'll probably last many, MANY more years like this.

Sometimes, I feel like I have four kids - Michael and Matthew, the unemployed husband with the broken toe and the senile, broke and completely unable to make a decision for herself mother.

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morzsa
Feb. 13th, 2008 07:41 am (UTC)
Red tape... I hate how complicated simple things can get once they get in the hands of the state!
trshtwns01
Feb. 13th, 2008 01:01 pm (UTC)
Do you get any assistance from the government there? What proof did you have to provide to get it? I don't know how public assistance is for medical issues there, but it's just insane here. I don't get it. It's easy to pump out babies you can't afford and have the government support you and them, but if you get old and can't afford what you need, forget it.

Now, Medicare would easily pay if we wanted to just go ahead and put mom in a traditional 'nursing home' - basically a hospital bed - but she's not at that point. She can still get around (in her wobbly way), play games, enjoy her freedom, she just needs regular medical supervision taking her meds three times a day and to make sure she doesn't fall. She in that in between state - too sick to live on her own, not sick enough to be resigned to a nursing home. Seems this is also a no-man's land when it comes to financial assistance.
nefri
Feb. 14th, 2008 08:55 pm (UTC)
Happy Valentines Day!!!

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