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I'm sending vibes for the doctor to call as soon as humanly possible today to get us out of this misery - well, to get ME out of this misery of waiting and to start US on the path of making a plan.

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On a bit stranger note, giving me quite the OOKEY feeling this morning, Michael did something that stopped me in my tracks. Matthew has been having nightmares every night, very vivid, and we think it is because of his medicine. When he has them, he likes to crawl into bed with Michael. Michael prefers to sleep alone. I wanted to impress upon Michael how much Matthew and I appreciated him being a caring brother, and I started out by asking if he remembers how scared nightmares make him. He came over to me and said he has them sometimes. Usually his dreams are good, but sometimes, they are scary. He then proceeded to say like the one he had a few nights ago where Gamma was dead. He was walking through somewhere, and he found bones, so he was looking for his flashlight. Once he found it, he saw that the bones were Gamma, and it made him really sad.

My kid is having dreams of my mom dying, when nobody but me and her doctor knows she has cancer. Do kids really pick up on unspoken things that much, or is that just too strange?

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desertmommy
Apr. 27th, 2006 02:00 pm (UTC)
I think they pick up on it. I remember when Jims mom was in the hospital (she was terminal, but the kids didn't know it)and we were all there for a visit, I remember our youngest niece (who was maybe 3) saying she didn't want to leave grandma to die in the hospital. No one had said anything to her other than grandma was sick. You can bet we all looked at each other with that "holy crap where did THAT come from" look.
dawsongirl70
Apr. 27th, 2006 02:08 pm (UTC)
This may sound a bit weird... but I believe that children often have a better grasp of the situation than adults do. They don't have all the myriad of emotions and thoughts that we do. Life is simpler.

God bless you and your mama. Please know that I am thinking about y'all and sending some coping energy to you as best I can.
oddharmonic
Apr. 27th, 2006 07:22 pm (UTC)
Kids are perceptive like that.

When we were three and one-and-a-half, my sister and I knew our little brother had died before Mom and Dad called our grandparents to let them know. And Laurel knew before I did that Cap'n Bob had passed on although we'd only told her he was sick and made a get-well card together.
darkjenna
Apr. 28th, 2006 01:42 am (UTC)
I agree with what the others have said. Children are a lot smarter and are able to discern things than we give them credit for. Maybe it would be good to sit them down and talk with them a little, to reassure them some. Hope all goes well, darlin.
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