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I'm a little verklempt.

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Vasectomy or Tubal Ligation?

Talk amongst yourselves.

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( 11 thoughts — Whatcha' think? )
semantique
Feb. 18th, 2006 04:48 pm (UTC)
LOL. It isn't even a decision for us. With my endometriosis, having the tubes tied will elminate(?) the issue. Ben had volunteered for a vasectomy way before we knew about what having tubes tied would do.

No help from here...sorry.
trshtwns01
Feb. 18th, 2006 06:33 pm (UTC)
The doctor I saw thinks I have endometriosis as well, although I've never had a problem from it really. It was weird how he came to that conclusion. He asked if I had cramping or anything before or during my period. I told him I only have a little bit of cramping the day I'm going to start, and I have diarreah. (Yeah, you needed to know THAT, right?). I said that's how I know I'm going to start that day. He raised an eyebrow and said 90% of the time when he hears that, the woman also has endometriosis, whether they were aware of it or not. For some reason, that's the reaction it causes around that time of the month.

Anyway, since we want to get aggressive with treating my failing hormones, the first step would be to get off birth control completely. He asked if we ever planned to have any more kids, and that is a definitive NO, so he told us to look at permanent options - either vasectomy or tubal ligation. I'm open for the tubal, because I know Scott is kind of ... funny about the idea of someone cutting him there. But I also know that a tubal is way more invasive than a vasectomy.

I don't know. We'll discuss it for a few weeks before making a decision.

semantique
Feb. 18th, 2006 07:49 pm (UTC)
I had terrible pain in my teenage years. I always got pain before I ever started bleeding for years. In my early 20s I could be just walking along and then be doubled over in pain. My mother never thought of taking me to a doctor to have it checked. It was just something I had to deal with and did deal with.

As I got older, the pain was less, although still there. I managed really well into my late 20s and 30s. When my thyroid went out of whack I had strange menstruation but that is a whole other story.

So, fast forward to when I am 33 and pregnant and they discover a cyst. It was a surprise to me and the ob/gyn. It was a decent size but in kind of a hidden place so, you really didnt' discover it on an exam. I guess basically the fear is that it will rupture.

If we have a 2nd child..we will probably have my tubes tied then especially b/c I will be having a c-section for number 2 as well. I don't know what we'll do if we don't have a 2nd. I'm curious to know how they tie your tubes if you aren't pregnant.

trshtwns01
Feb. 18th, 2006 08:32 pm (UTC)
It's basically the same operation. It's a laproscopic procedure, with a small incision around your belly button and one near your pubic bone. The cut through the tubes, and they can burn them, clip them, or whatever is preferred by that doc. You still release eggs, but they are absorbed into your body since they can't go anywhere.

I've had so many surgeries and procedures that I'm not really scared of it. I know Scott is a bit funny about a vasectomy, as he's said so in the past when we've jokingly discussed it. I don't want him to have one even though he doesn't want to, JUST because it is less risky than a tubal ligation.
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trshtwns01
Feb. 18th, 2006 08:38 pm (UTC)
You know, it's funny though. We had the boys, and we know we don't want any more children. We've discussed that over the past four years and are very firm in never wanting more. Heck, if we change our minds later, we'll adopt anyway because we would be too old *laugh*

A year after the boys were born, I had a really large cyst on one of my ovaries. I used to get ovarian cysts just about every month, this one just got out of hand. They had to reopen my c-section, take the cyst and remove the ovary. For a while I was so terrified of getting one on the other ovary and never having the option for more kids - even though we knew we didn't want more. It's like it was so...FINAL. I got over that fear, thankfully.

Now, I've come to realize it isn't the finality of having no ovaries and thus no chance for children that had me terrified, it was being put into INSTANT menopause. *laugh*
standbackstevie
Feb. 18th, 2006 06:03 pm (UTC)
Hubbie has volunteered to have a vastectomy, but so far....no steps have been taken. Isn't it a tad less invasive for guys than a tubal ligation is for us gals? Of course, men are giant babies, so we have to hear more whining from them. ;) Not sure if that's worth it!
trshtwns01
Feb. 18th, 2006 08:34 pm (UTC)
I think a tubal would be no problem for me, yet it is a more invasive procedure. Like you said, I think I would handle it easier than he would, seeing as how anything in that area of their bodies is just absolutely sacred. :)
oddharmonic
Feb. 18th, 2006 10:58 pm (UTC)
Yes. A no-scalpel vasectomy is done as an outpatient procedure -- the county health department someplace I used to live in offered them for $150 to any family that met low-income requirements and would attend a counseling session beforehand.

I asked the same county health department what they offered for women. They recommended Planned Parenthood.
elbobo
Feb. 18th, 2006 09:07 pm (UTC)
Vesectomy
From a male :)

I really don't want anyone messing with my junk, but it's a day surgery and that seems like a much better option.
oddharmonic
Feb. 18th, 2006 11:12 pm (UTC)
A no-scalpel vasectomy costs less and has a shorter recovery time.

Personally, I'd happily volunteer to have my entire reproductive system removed since I'm done using it. (I've been told this isn't a normal female feeling, but I'm okay with that. I imagine the average female has a cycle that's much more regular and less painful/clotty than mine.)
( 11 thoughts — Whatcha' think? )